The School of Hard Knocks

The School of Hard Knocks...





There are two types of people in the world: the pessimists and the optimists.  The optimist  sees every challenging situation as an opportunity to grow while the pessimist views the same situation as doom and disaster.  Life presents us with a variety of knocks and bangs in the form of situations and experiences and its totally up to us how we deal with them.  Those who grab the opportunity to change, move forward, grow and excel whilst those who fear and become intimidated, lose out, stay stuck and miss the valuables lessons that life brings! Which personality are you?

It would do us well to view life as a perpetual school, in which every soul and situation is enabling us to attain our ˜Masters Degree in life!  Everyone and everything are our teachers and we are being refined by every challenge and opportunity.

Its as though we are pieces of rock and life is sculpting and shaping us.  We are being chipped at and chiselled to perfection.  Life will continue to attempt to knock us over, unbalance us and make us loose our footing.  We may lose our job, a close friend or partner, or have an accident.  But those who accept the lessons, pick themselves up and become wiser for it, can make their lives a masterpiece.

For every piece of art to be created, the artist needs silence and concentration.  A painter, a sculptor, an architect, each need solitude and quiet to get their work done.  If we take time to stand back, observe, reflect, and use our inner wisdom, we will learn that everything that is happening to us is exactly as it should be.  We will be totally grateful for the tests that life is presenting to us and thankful for the art we are becoming!

You will have noticed that you do not respond to the same situation now as you would have done in your teens or twenties “ the reason being that life has shaped you and you will be more experienced, wiser and more mature.  With time, introverts become extroverts, extroverts become introverts, those seeking the limelight will look out for the ˜dimlight, those who exercised anger and ego will be humbled with patience¦ but this depth of transformation will only apply to those who actually take the time to use the lessons of life to their advantage.  For those who resist, for them the artist “ the hard knocks“ will persist.

Choose to always keep a positive frame of mind no matter what.  Things may look pretty bad, but in hindsight we often realise how perfect they were for our growth.  The art and the power is to be able to remember all this when we are passing through the situation and not after it.

Its time¦ to see everything that happens to you in life as an opportunity for your growth and learning.
  Dont resist it accept it. Realise that every lesson is tailor-made for your greater good.
 Be grateful that the lesson has come, it has come to you and it has come now and not in your old age.

 Dont wait until its too late!
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Realizing Our Natural Nature Of Peace

 Realizing Our Natural Nature Of Peace




If we look at nature, we will notice that everything in nature - plants, flowers, etc. do everything they do peacefully - they grow, flourish, decompose and die in peace. We get an obvious impression from them that peace is their natural nature. Even the five elements - earth, wind, water, fire and sky are mostly peaceful by nature. It's only when we try and exercise control over them and interfere with their balance that they lose their peace.


Most of us, irrespective of our age, even in these stressful and hurry filled times, act peacefully and express our peaceful nature in relationships by means of peaceful thoughts, words and actions, unless something is wrong in the relationship. We instinctively like peaceful relationships. If something is wrong in a relationship and it lacks peace even to a small extent, we do not feel good or comfortable about it. All this proves to us that we, like nature, are essentially peaceful by nature. That is our basic personality.

Most of us have, at some time in our lives and even more frequently in the case of many of us, experienced and expressed our peaceful nature. It's so natural, we are not even consciously aware of it. What we are more aware of is when we are distanced from the natural i.e. we are unnatural - worried, scared, irritated etc. But these unnatural phases always pass and we finally return to our peaceful self. There are some people who are permanently grumpy and tight with someone or the other, because of something or the other. On some days we also feel as if we are continuously living on the edge and continuously succumbing to frustration and anger. But even then, away from everyone's eyes; everyone, the compulsive angerholic (one who cannot live without anger) and you also, will, at some stage, look inwards, relax and have an inner personal spiritual retreat in which they will find relief by experiencing their true nature of peace.


P.S. From your busy and stressful life, please take a few days off to visit some place having natural beauties, with family, to relax enjoy with the wonderful GOD gifted nature.

With lots of love and regards
S. Murali
Now in Chennai for Vacation

Packages for locally engaged staff in Afghanistan

Defence Secretary Philip Hammond has announced the redundancy options available for the UK's locally engaged staff in Afghanistan.






In a written statement to Parliament Mr Hammond said that the UK government had decided to implement a generous package of training and support for its locally engaged staff in Afghanistan in recognition of their contribution to the shared goal of a more secure, stable and prosperous Afghanistan.
Mr Hammond stated:
Without them, the UK’s contribution to the international mission would not have been possible. We pay tribute to those who have made the ultimate sacrifice and those who have been injured whilst working with us.
The [UK] government wants to encourage local staff to stay in Afghanistan and to use their skills and knowledge to make it stronger, better able to meet the challenges ahead, and to seize the opportunities.




Defence Secretary Philip Hammond
Defence Secretary Philip Hammond (library image) [Picture: Harland Quarrington, Crown copyright]
The package will provide local staff with up to 5 years of training or education in Afghanistan, in a subject of their own choosing, and a living stipend for the full period of training, based on their final salary.
Staff who prefer not to take up the training package will be offered a second option – a financial severance payment which represents 18 months’ salary, to be paid in monthly instalments.
These options aim to encourage local staff to develop valuable skills and knowledge in Afghanistan so they can go on contributing to a brighter future for themselves, their families and their country.

 

Resettlement

 

The government acknowledges that some local staff, such as interpreters, have worked in particularly dangerous and challenging roles in Helmand. In recognition of this unique and exceptional service to the United Kingdom, these local staff and their immediate families will be offered a third option – resettlement in the UK. In order to help them adjust to life in the UK, they will be offered initial assistance and accommodation, including access to benefits, as well as support in seeking employment.
To be eligible for resettlement in the UK, local staff must have routinely worked in dangerous and challenging roles in Helmand outside protected bases. Seriously injured staff, who might have qualified had their employment not been terminated due to injuries sustained in combat, are also included. Local staff who were contracted by the UK but who mostly worked for Danish or Estonian forces, and who meet the criteria above, are also eligible. This approach has been agreed with the Danish and Estonian governments.

 

Eligibility

 

Qualification for this redundancy scheme is limited to those local staff who were in post, working directly for Her Majesty’s Government, on 19 December 2012, when the Prime Minister announced the drawdown of UK forces, and who will have served more than 12 months when they are made redundant.
In total, it is estimated that around 1,200 local staff will qualify for a redundancy package. Of these, it is thought up to 600 will be eligible for resettlement, though they may choose to stay in Afghanistan to help build its future, supported by the training and financial packages.

Statement on Afghanistan: locally engaged staff redundancy scheme






Written statement to Parliament


  Statement on Afghanistan: 

locally engaged staff 

redundancy scheme

Written Ministerial Statement 





As our presence in Afghanistan reduces, our requirement for the support of local staff is also reducing. The government recognises the contribution and commitment of all local staff. They have played a vital role in contributing to our shared goal, a more secure, stable and prosperous Afghanistan. Without them, the UK’s contribution to the international mission would not have been possible. We pay tribute to those who have made the ultimate sacrifice and those who have been injured whilst working with us.

The future of Afghanistan lies in the hearts and minds of such people, who have done so much to move their country forward. Having invested so much already, the government wants to encourage local staff to stay in Afghanistan and to use their skills and knowledge to make it stronger, better able to meet the challenges ahead and to seize the opportunities.

For this reason, we have decided to implement a generous package of training and financial support for our locally engaged staff in Afghanistan. It will provide local staff with up to five years of training or education in Afghanistan, in a subject of their own choosing, and a living stipend for the full period of training, based on their final salary. Staff who prefer not to take up the training package, will be offered a second option, a financial severance payment which represents 18 months salary. This will be paid in monthly instalments. These options aim to encourage local staff to develop valuable skills and knowledge in Afghanistan so they can go on contributing to a brighter future for themselves, their families and their country.

The government acknowledges that some local staff, such as interpreters, have worked in particularly dangerous and challenging roles in Helmand. In recognition of this unique and exceptional service to the United Kingdom, these local staff and their immediate families will be offered a third option, resettlement in the UK. In order to help them adjust to life in the UK, they will be offered initial assistance and accommodation including access to benefits, as well as support in seeking employment.

To be eligible for resettlement in the UK, local staff must have routinely worked in dangerous and challenging roles in Helmand outside protected bases. Seriously injured staff, who might have qualified had their employment not been terminated due to injuries sustained in combat, are also included. Local staff who were contracted by the UK, but who mostly worked for Danish or Estonian Forces and who meet the criteria above, are also eligible. This approach has been agreed with the Danish and Estonian governments.

We have always been clear in our desire to recognise the efforts of local staff, and have balanced this against a range of other factors. These include the cost of any scheme, and the potential impact on the UK and on Afghanistan of resettling large numbers of people. In line with previous similar policies, qualification for this redundancy scheme is limited to those local staff who were in post, working directly for HMG, on 19 December 2012, when the Prime Minister announced the drawdown of UK forces, and who have served more than 12 months when they are made redundant. Those whose employment ended before this date, and those whose employment was ended voluntarily or for disciplinary reasons will not be eligible. In total, we estimate that around 1,200 local staff will qualify for a redundancy package. Of these, we estimate up to 600 will be eligible for resettlement, though they may choose to stay in Afghanistan to help build its future, supported by the training and financial packages.

Further details of the practical arrangements for applying for and implementing the redundancy scheme will be announced in due course.
Separately from the redundancy package, we recognise our obligations to any local staff who face real threats to their safety or that of their immediate family as a result of their service to the UK. Our existing intimidation policy will remain in place for all local staff, regardless of their date and duration of employment. This ensures that local staff who face real threats to their own and their families’ safety, now and in the future, are supported. The policy offers relocation within Afghanistan and, in the most extreme cases, the possibility of resettlement in the UK. We are currently reviewing the policy to ensure it continues to provide a fair and robust system of assessing threats to, and ensuring the protection of, our local staff.

The UK is strongly committed to the future of Afghanistan and will maintain a long-term relationship based around trade, diplomacy, development assistance, financial contribution to the ANSF and military training. Our future work in Afghanistan will continue to benefit from the talent and dedication of local staff, and we will never forget this.

INDOMITABLE SPIRIT


INDOMITABLE SPIRIT

-A.P.J.Abdul Kalam

During a visit to South Africa in 2004, I boarded a train at Penrich railway station near Durban for a journey to Pietermatrizburg, tracing the footsteps of Mahatma Gandhi. It was at this station that Mahatma Gandhi embarked on the fateful journey that in later years was regarded as having changed the course of his life.

He boarded the train on 7th June 1893 to travel to Pretoria, where he was due to meet his legal clients. A first-class seat was booked for him. The train reached Pietermatrizburg station at about 9 pm where a white passenger entered the compartment. Seeing that a colored person was travelling in the same first class compartment he got furious. He immediately went out and returned with two officials who ordered Gandhi to move to the van compartment. When Gandhi refused and resisted, a constable pushed him out of the train and also threw his luggage out after him, and the train continued its journey without Gandhi.

Gandhi spent the night in the waiting room. It was winter and bitterly cold. Although his overcoat was in the luggage, Gandhi did not ask for further insults. Gandhi contemplated returning to India but decided that such a course would be cowardice. He vowed to stay on and fight the disease of racial prejudice. This event changed the course of Gandhiji's life and he said: ``My active non-violence began from that date.

The train and the compartment in which we traveled were exactly similar to the compartment in which Mahatma Gandhi had traveled. When I got down at the Preitermatrizburg station, I saw the plaque in whose vicinity the Mahatma was thrown out. The plaque had the following inscription:

In the vicinity of this plaque M.K.Gandhi was evicted from a first class compartment on the night of 7 June1893. This incident changed the course of his life. He took up the fight against the racial oppression. His active non-violence started from that date.

Thought Provoker: 18 Ways to Make Your Parents Feel Great







Thought Provoker: 18 Ways to Make Your Parents Feel Great

The parents nowadays are quite worried about the behavioral changes in their children due to several socio-economical reasons. The gap between parents and the younger generations, is increasing day by day due to which the family bonding is getting weaker and weaker. They have forgotten the countless efforts and sacrifices made by their parents throughout their lives.



Starting from our birth they have taken care of our food (22 years * 365 days * 3 times = 24000 times!), household maintenance, our education (daily home works, uniform, school/tuition fee), religious moral teaching every day (THE REAL GREAT JOB), shelter, clothing, outings, vacations, toys, computer and God knows how many other countless efforts they have put in to make us a complete human being to enjoy and survive in this world. Indeed, all those efforts cannot be covered in this article but the overall emphasis is that its our moral and spiritual responsibility to take care of them now.
Below are some small acts of kindness which would truly show your affection to take good care of them:

    Give them enough money so that they don't have to ask you.
    Share funny and entertaining things with them to make them laugh or smile.
    Don't speak loudly. Speak slowly, nicely and softly.
    Do not walk in front of them in market or anywhere. They might walk slow being old; stay behind them. Give them respect.
    Ask for small tasks again and again. For example, "Abou Jee, do you need water? Should i bring tea for you? Are you hungry, baba" etc
    Closely monitor their health. visit doctor if required. Have them checked thoroughly time to time.
    Take care of their medicines. Set reminders on your phone for their medicines and serve them on time.
    Take them to the Temple. Walk slowly. Follow their pace.
    Take them to the park for walk. If not possible daily, then take them on weekend.
    Call them with respect.
    Open the door for them with respect.
    Adapt yourself according to their schedule not vise-versa.
    Do shopping for them (buy their clothes, shoes, small items like tooth paste). Buy your mother a nice coffee cup. Take them to market and buy them according to their likings. Buy your parents some nice books; usually people love to read books in old age.
    When you come back to home, visit them first in their room.
    Respect their social circle and let them enjoy with their friends.�
    In case of conflict on any issue, try to follow them as much as possible. Remember, they have been sacrificing their money and time in raising you for years and years. Its time to pay back. They have been showing all the patience during your childhood. Its time for you to be patient.
    Keep them with you instead of sending them to old age home. This will be a big act of ignorance if you do.
    When starting the food, serve them first and on time

A last word. Let not parents expect all this care. And, children never forget any of their duties to their loved ones. I would recommend making a check list of this email and and paste it on any wall in your room or kitchen and read it often to remember.

(Please do share if you are doing any other good thing for making your parents feel great :)

Zindgi kuch bhi nahin phir bhi jiye jaate hain



                                                Zindgi kuch bhi nahin phir bhi jiye jaate hain
Tujhpe A waqt ehsaan kiye jaate hain.

Kuch to halaat ne mujrim hamain thahraya hai
Auar kuch aap bhi ilzaam diye jaate hain.

Cheen li waqt ne ulfet ke gamon ki daulet
Khaali daaman hai wahi saath liye jaate hain.

Zindgi kya hai koi jaane kafan hai 'Faaqir'
Umra ke haathon hum jisko siye jaaate hain.